Be curious not furious
In my discussions with inspiring practitioners who are getting this right, the word that comes up more often than any other is ‘curious’. When a child is not behaving as we want or need them to be, one way to respond is with anger. Another way is to respond with calmness and curiosity. This takes confidence as it may not be the societally expected response. When we are calm, and in turn help a child to calm and we become curious about what the child is experiencing, we begin the process of making sustainable change for that child and helping them build the skills, understanding and neural pathways that’ll help them to thrive not only at school but in life.