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Communicate Calmly with a Distressed Child

Sound calm to a child in distress even when you're panicking inside, using a few words you've practised ahead of time.

  • 23 minutes
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About this course

A child who is furious or frightened needs the adult in front of them to seem steady. That's hard to pull off when your own heart is racing and you can't think what to say.

Start with how you speak: slow, low, low. Slow your pace, drop your tone and bring your volume down, and you'll sound calmer than you feel (often you'll start to feel it too). Then pick two or three stock phrases, such as "I'm ready to listen when you're ready to talk", and practise them until they come out without thinking. There's a handout of suggested phrases to start from.

Some children don't respond well to talk at all. For them, you'll work out a private signal together, or use emoji cards so they can show you how they feel.

Modules

6 modules
  1. 11 – Introduction1 min
  2. 22 – Slow Low Low5 min
  3. 33 – Stock phrases: groups5 min
  4. 44 -Stock phrases: individual5 min
  5. 55 – When words don’t work4 min
  6. 66 – Review3 min

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Good to know

  • A certificate when you finish.
  • Stop when you like and pick up where you left off.
  • Got a link from your child's school? Use that instead: it's free for you.

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